I think that over the years I have learned to not use the word “friend” so loosely. I used to cal everyone my friend, especially in college. But when people began to fade out of my life, or people could not be counted on when needed, I realized that the word had come just that.. A word. As I grow, I see that a lot of people in my life were just close acquaintances. Here to offer up good company and a good time but that’s as far as they stretched. It’s important to know the difference and don’t worry, in time, they will reveal which one they are. There are those who have been in my life for years, we may not talk often but I know that when I call, they are there! Those are the ones that I need around the most. I can say that I only have a handful of Real friends – no matter where we go in life, we are always there for each other. Uplifting one another, encouraging growth and prosperity in one another! Never judging, always understanding with an open ear and open arms. Those people are my friends, more like my family and I wouldn’t trade them for the world.
I have had people fade from my life, but the true friends always come back. Friendships, like any other relationship, take work and love. I pride myself on being a good friend because I know what it’s like on the receiving end to not have one. It feels good to be a friend to someone who needs one, even if it is temporary. And sometimes people grow apart for good but if there was once love there, it will always be love there. Once again, you will be able to tell the difference. My boyfriend recently told me, “You need friends in your life who are going to motivate you to grow, people who add something to it.”