Death to Comparison

Death to Comparison

We as women have a problem called comparison. Another one called self-confidence. We have battled with self-love and trying to figure out where we fit in the world. Your story is yours alone, no one else can write it but you and God. You cannot walk someone else’s path, your steps have already been ordered. You cannot live over there. You have to be hungry for another life. Don’t be the person to hold yourself back; sometimes you have to battle your own mind. Get out of your own way. You cannot worry about what others are doing and let fear of who might be better than you stop you from fighting for your dreams. You won’t know what your capable of until you do something! Stop thinking and start moving.

-JIF

Another One Bites The Dust

Another One Bites The Dust

Ever feel like you lose a lot of friends, like God just removes people from your life all the time? Not in a death sense, but one Day you’re friends and then one day you’re not. Nothing major happens, but you seemingly grow apart. Last year, I had what I thought was a close friend and then one day we just weren’t anymore. More recently the same thing happened again. I believe that God placed these people in my life for the season that I was in at the time, when I needed them.

When you meet someone, can you automatically tell if they are seasonal or lifetime? What does that look like? Most of my lifetime friends are people who I have known since childhood. One of them, I met after college but I could never see us just not being friends. But when I met all of them, I did not know if they were seasonal or not. I truly did not even think about. I just offered a genuine friendship and for some people, it stuck. For others, well I don’t know, maybe we just aren’t for each other. No love lost though.

-JIF

Attitudes

I have come a long way and I am not defined by my “attitude.” I have worked hard on the transformations I have made in my life and having a positive energy. My attitude is never unwarranted; you cannot poke at me and expect me to still be roses. I’m not there yet. I can be mellow and it doesn’t mean I have an attitude. And I’m not saying that’s the best way to handle my frustrations or hurt feelings either. One thing I know, if you focus more on trying to pick out my attitude moments than everything else good about me, which do you think you’ll continue to see? I’m not perfect but I’m not a mean-spirited person. Nothing will keep me from continuing to be better. 💕

-JIF

In-Tune with You

In-Tune with You

How in tune are you with yourself? Can you feel when things are unbalanced in your life or just downright off?

I feel it. I feel how off things are with me. I have been holding on to past conversations with friends and my s.o. I have been holding on to past decisions that I have made. I have been holding on to past feelings. I don't know why I've always had such a hard time when it comes to forgiving myself. And it's not that I feel like I am just this awful person, but I know I have said and done things I shouldn't have. I also know, I can't go backwards and change any of that.

If I step out of myself and look at my life, I really should not have any complaints. I should be more grateful than anything; I have a beautiful house, a working/ paid for car, a good job, health, a good relationship, and the list goes on. I don't need for anything, but I think lately I've been clouded with my wants. My desires. Weight loss, marriage, a family, a better job/career… this list probably goes on too.

I realize that I really need to tap into myself more. Not what I am lacking, but rather all of the blessings that I do have. Count my blessings. I need to be less concerned about what everyone else around me is doing, whether it be at work, at home or on social media. Social media in it of itself is a sore spot for me. It bothers me so much more than it should… I have to start to fade that out. I let what others say and do bother me too much. I get annoyed or offended and I just get to a place where I feel like WHY do people not consider others. People are for themselves. Point blank period. And I need to be more for myself than others. I am mine before I am ever anyone else's.

-JIF

How to Stop Wasting Time

How to Stop Wasting Time

1. Don’t get angry about things you cannot do anything about. Keep your peace to keep your power. 

2. Stop complaining, it’s useless. Instead, give thanks. 

3. Don’t try to buy time by getting less sleep. It causes you to be less focused. 

4. Stop hurrying, it causes you to make mistakes. 

5. Stop craving what you don’t have while not enjoying what you do have. 

6. Stop living in the past! You can’t go back & redo anything, so let it go. 

7. Take time to deal with problems & you won’t have to spend more time dealing with big ones. 

8. Locate the things that hijack your time & be firm in avoiding them. 

*If you need a change, you’re the one who has to make it.*

– Joyce Meyer

Friends vs Coworkers 

Friends vs Coworkers 

I recently had a bad experience with thinking that I could make friends at work. So I pose the question, is it possible to make new friends at work? Or will they always just be “coworkers”?

I think that I am too trusting, to a fault. Sometimes I vent to the wrong person and then their colors are revealed. I had caused me to reevaluate who I have chosen to talk to and associate with at work. I know that it’s just a job to get a check, but part of what I loved about my job was the environment and people. Now I have to go back to being quiet and focusing on myself. I think the hardest part is that the people around me will continue to be fake with no issue about it. 

I just have to realize that work is work. I didn’t come to make friends; I was hired alone, I’ll be promoted alone so I might as well walk alone. Keep my purpose in my sight and keep moving forward. Change is inevitable and constant. So I guess in my experience, you cannot make friends at work. There will always be that line. 

-JIF